ENTP

对ENTP类型的人来说，最重要的是有创造力，能预见到美好的未来，并且时刻具有挑战性。将"聪明"用来形容这种类型的人是最合适不过的了。

ENTP人话说的快，脑子转的也快。他们既喜欢为自己的利益而辩，也喜欢炫耀自己的辩论技巧而跟人辩。辩论时，他们既喜欢表现乖张的幽默，也喜欢唱反调。那些并不视辩论为一种显示的人，在与他们辩论过程中，往往会觉得很困惑，甚至感到很受伤害。

由于ENTP人很善言辞，所以他们在解决问题时很机灵，很有技巧性。然而有时他们却力争"超越"自我，他们经常"不择手段"------只要有条件，他们便无视某些规则的存在去抄近路，即使是在野心勃勃的欺骗性活动中溃败而终，也在所不惜。无论在工作还是在家里，他们都喜欢玩各种体力或智力上的玩具，越复杂他们就越喜欢。虽然，他们很快便会喜新厌旧。

ENTP人基本上都很乐观，在遇到大挫折时，他们只视其为一个挑战，并坚定地去解决掉；但是，当他们碰到小挫折或小麻烦时，却很容易发脾气。 ENTP人不能忍受那些执迷不悟、愚钝的人，同时，他们也会毫不掩饰得表达这一点。其实，只要他们生活中没什么烦扰的事，他们平时还是很亲切和蔼的，有时甚至很讨人喜欢。

在人际关系方面，他们能一下子与所爱的人亲密起来。有些人在私底下表达这种感情；而另外一些人，对亲人的亲密程度却表现的很公然，以致于那些平时只见得他们工作中的一面的共事者们大吃一惊。ENTP人也善于结交那些与他们一样聪明、一样有趣的人。除了以上两方面，人性的其他方面似乎都被ENTP人给淡忘了，除非当他们作听众时-------给人或好，或坏，或什么样的感觉都有可能。

推陈出新的发明家型（ENTP）

若你是一个发明家型

你是发明家，风险承担者和新点子及计划的发展者。而这些新点子及计划，要不是将你丢入破产的深渊，就是把你送上富贵和光荣的顶端。每一分每一秒间，都有无数的点子在你的脑袋中跳跃，你可以和任何认识的人谈话，基本上，你就是个创意的缩影。

当你恋爱时

你并不会轻易坠入爱河：你是那种有可能会错失好些“条件不错的伴侣”的人，直到你觉得找到了理想情人。这样的结果是，你保持单身状态可能比朋友和家人预期的还要长久。

就正面来说，你可以在伴侣生气时利用个人的魅力和甜言蜜语去安慰他。你尤其擅长于帮助另一半看清一件事情的逻辑面。

从反面而言，你的说话技巧太好，反而会使你的伴侣说出挑衅的话，但是你却没有花时间去正视你们的感情问题。与其面对真实的问题，你宁愿以三寸不烂之舌和肤浅的认知去回避。但你事后却必须付出代价。

你倾向和交往的人维持一种距离，你的伴侣如果是强烈感觉型的人，他也许会给你贴上“冷漠”的标签，虽然你只是依照最自然的方式与他人应对。

即使你找到了适合的人，你依然要维持独特性和个人的空间。事实上，你需要的是一个在你需要时让你独处的伴侣，而不是一个每天24小时、每周7天和你粘在一起的人。

你的最佳恋爱类型

若你是一个女性发明家型

你的理想恋人是陆军元帅型(ENTJ)。陆军元帅型的自信和独立的人格正是你所渴望的，他们可以让你维持某种弹性和独立性。假使和这类拥有高成就的男人展开一段有创意的感情，这种结合将使你们可以共享彼此丰富的知识资源，共同创造成功的人生。

若你是一个男性发明家型

你会喜欢女性学者型(INTP)或是挑战者型(ESTP)。

挑战者型将会是一个很有趣的选择，而且绝对值得。你会拥有一个比你自己对你的点子更感兴趣的伴侣；一个可以将你卓越的创意卖给出价最高的竞标者的人。不管发生什么事，发明家型和挑战者型将拥有永不停歇的活力。

若你的理想情人是一个发明家型

在哪里可以遇到一个发明家型情人？

发明家型是知识追求者中拥有最多元化选择的。他们随意和好奇的个性会引领他们到任何地方。他们尤其喜爱会引发他们的想像力和逻辑思考的社会活动。你可以在以下地方找到他们：

*与科学相关的组织

*口才训练团体

*文学欣赏俱乐部

*贸易展

*语言学组织

*发明家俱乐部

*企业家组织

*电脑展

*科学和科幻小说展和演出

总而言之，你可以在任何能激发发明家型的知识力量的地方找到他们，还有就是那些可以让他们发挥良好沟通技巧的地方。

如何与一个发明家型情人约会？

让发明家型谈论他了解的任何事情。发明家型知道的事情不少。你可以轻易地开始问他关于他众多专门的领域，并在他打开话闸子时专心聆听。

相遇情形可能像以下这样：

你：“你对无性生殖有什么想法？”

发明家型：“这是个令人着迷的概念。谁能想像无性生

殖—就是说，细胞、微生物或生物全都通过无性生殖来自于一个单一的祖先，会对人类造成那么深的影响？”

现在发话权已轮到你的发明家型了，让他继续说下去。你的专心聆听，会让发明家型情人对你的印象更好。

*约会锦囊：询问你的发明家型情人

喜欢在约会中做什么事。

当你询问一个关于约会活动的问题时，发明家型会相信是他想到了这个约会的活动。请尽管跟着计划进行，这是非常有趣的。

现在让我们来看看安娜，一个43岁的演说家，是如何利用发明家型天生的多言和好奇心，与她爱讲话的爱人马修结合的。

安娜在一个地区性的国家演说协会聚会上遇见马修—48岁的发明家型。她被他黝黑的外表和高雅的品位所吸引，之后在中场休息时安娜和他交谈过后，她更是欣喜：他是一个有绝对魅力的男人，一个旧式的欧洲绅士，拥有高尚的品位和对女人温文儒雅的尊敬。

但国家演说协会里很多单身的女人都对马修虎视眈眈。几乎每一次聚会，安娜都得排在一道长长的仰慕者队伍之后，才能等到机会和他说话。

而等轮到她时，马修已经要去参加众多的商业事务了，他是当地好几个企业的行销顾问。

作为一个恋爱类型系统的学生，安娜知道她该做什么。在接下来的一次聚会中，安娜是休息时第一个走到马修位子旁的人，同时她立即把一份恋爱类型测验题丢在他的面前。

她说：“我正在为我其中一场演讲进行一项人格类型和感情满意度的研究。我在想你是否可以帮我完成这份测验然后交还给我？”

在马修还来不及回答之前，安娜已经把她的名片放到桌面上然后就离开了。

“等一等！”马修大喊，但她已经走了。

当安娜回到家时，电话答录机里已录下了3通马修的留言，问她到底恋爱类型测验是什么东西，并且他想知道她什么时候有空和他讨论。

第二天晚上，他们碰面了，接下是第三天、第四天。马修对感情类型的概念很欣赏，他希望把这样的概念纳入他的顾问工作中。但更好的消息是，他决定把像安娜这么一个聪明、活跃、又漂亮的女人也纳入他的生活。

如何赢得发明家型情人的爱？

让发明家型不断地说话。当发明家型说话时，或许会学习到远远超过你可以想像的事物，你们两人可以享受所有情侣经常做的事情：一顿美好的晚餐、音乐会、表演、芭蕾舞和电影。

另外一件重要的事情是：和一位发明家型约会时，请确保你对于他或她不断涌现的想法表现高度的热忱和支持。因为发明家型是以他们的想法为生的，他们要求自己的伴侣分享他们崇高的计划和另一种世界。同时，你也要注意，发明家型经常会在他们伟大的远见上改变他们的想法。

*恋爱锦囊：不要质疑你发明家型情人不切实际的计划；尽量表现出同意与赞同。

当一个发明家型突然跑来告诉你他的一个不切实际的计划时，你最好的应对方法是保持冷静，同时对他的想法表现出谨慎的支持。若你和发明家型争论，只会造成反效果，反而会让他更加往错误的方向推进。

另一方面，若你对发明家型的智力和能力表现出支持，一切的事情通常会进行得颇为顺利。

让我们来看看蕾吉娜，一个33岁的服装设计师，如何成功地与她的发明家型男友相处。

蕾吉娜的男朋友鲍勃，是一个45岁的股票经纪人，一个像小孩一样的男人。当他对她提出一个想法时，她通常都会拒绝。

在他们交往6个月后的某个晚上，鲍勃冒出了一个蕾吉娜没有预期而且也不想考虑的问题。

“亲爱的，我打算将我的投资变现，去古巴展开新的事业。在3个月内，我将到那里定居。你要跟我去吗？”

“你说什么？”蕾吉娜目瞪口呆地回答。

“我已经计划了一个很好的蓝图，要在古巴经营一个复合式的游乐场和赌场，我将在古巴变成大富翁。当外资进来时，这个计划将会为我们带来财富。”

就在蕾吉娜几乎要发脾气的时候，她想起了对付发明家型的规则：不要争论，假装同意。

“亲爱的，这实在太棒了！”蕾吉娜一边说，一边按捺住自己想把锅子丢到他脑袋上的冲动。“你先把细节排好，当你有一个详细的计划时，再来找我谈。”她告诉他。

正如蕾吉娜所料，鲍勃重新考虑了他伟大的计划并且在几个星期后放弃了。他再也没有提起古巴计划了。

4个月后，在他们订婚的当天晚上，鲍勃对蕾吉娜—他的准新娘赞不绝口：“亲爱的，我需要你在我身边给我务实的想法。在我的计划和梦想要搬到现实来时，你是我的镇静剂和导航者。你愿意嫁给我吗？”

“我会稍作考虑，然后再回复你。”蕾吉娜以一个甜美的笑容回答他。

如何和发明家型情人拥有美好的性关系？

发明家型会是很有趣的爱人，虽然，如同大部分的知识追求者，他们也许缺少足够的热情。

纵然如此，他们却以其他方面弥补，他们有欲望尝试任何在床上可行或理论上可行的事情。很多发明家型喜欢阅读最新的性生活手册，并且把他们曾经有过每一个爱人的性知识都收藏在脑袋中。当他们三四十岁时，发明家型可以变成一本性知识专业百科全书。

有个和发明家型交往了3年的女人，对她伴侣的“本事”作了以下说明：“他像在洗车，会从任何角度接近我，尝试各种技巧和姿势，他是一个很棒的情人。”

**锦囊：邀请你的发明家型情人进行研究，以发掘新的技巧或姿势。

把这个作业当做一个挑战提给你的发明家型情人：告诉那个对信息饥渴的发明家型情人，你想要建立一个性知识的资料库，而且是深入细节的，还超过其他所有伴侣所拥有的。现在，他会充满热忱地开始去搜索最好的技巧、姿势和所有他可能找到的卧室装饰品。

谨记：若你愿意和一个对性实验非常有兴趣的情人在一起，和一个发明家型的人*是会令人迷醉的。

如何和发明家型情人维持一段长久的关系？

和一个发明家型在一起生活总是充满启发和刺激。这类极端的演说家喜爱和他们的伴侣聊天并辩论任何可以想像到的话题。有时候一个发明家型可以在同一时间内谈论4种不同的事情，与此同时，他的脑袋中还蕴酿着另外至少4种可以随时提出来的话题。

假使你正和一个发明家型情人交往，请准备接受挑战；发明家型喜欢任何形式的智力启发。若你无法满足发明家型对思想的追求，他有可能会对你失去尊重和爱慕，同时开始到别处去寻找一个“智慧型配偶”。

女性发明家型有时不易被传统社会所接受，因为她们的特质和一般传统女性的特质不同。她们反应灵敏、热忱、好竞争，而且喜欢辩论。这些特质对某些男人而言是具有威胁性的。

另一方面，那些欣赏女性发明家型的聪明男人，将得以在生命中拥有一个非常精彩的伴侣。

不管怎样，和一个发明家型在一起是绝对不会沉闷的。作为恋爱类型中最喜爱冒险的一类，发明家型陶醉在生活和恋爱的边缘。

和一个“万事都有可能发生”的发明家型在一起，你永远无法知道你是会在另一半赚大钱后，住进一栋面临大海、有32间房室的豪宅，还是会在他的新公司完蛋时，和另一对夫妻共挤一层两房公寓。

不管是哪一种状况，可以放心的是，你那脑筋动得很快的发明家型情人早已准备好另一个将你推向爱情、成功和快乐顶端的计划。

The Visionary

As an ENTP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things rationally and logically.

With Extraverted Intuition dominating their personality, the ENTP's primary interest in life is understanding the world that they live in. They are constantly absorbing ideas and images about the situations they are presented in their lives. Using their intuition to process this information, they are usually extremely quick and accurate in their ability to size up a situation. With the exception of their ENFP cousin, the ENTP has a deeper understanding of their environment than any of the other types.

This ability to intuitively understand people and situations puts the ENTP at a distinct advantage in their lives. They generally understand things quickly and with great depth. Accordingly, they are quite flexible and adapt well to a wide range of tasks. They are good at most anything that interests them. As they grow and further develop their intuitive abilities and insights, they become very aware of possibilities, and this makes them quite resourceful when solving problems.

ENTPs are idea people. Their perceptive abilities cause them to see possibilities everywhere. They get excited and enthusiastic about their ideas, and are able to spread their enthusiasm to others. In this way, they get the support that they need to fulfill their visions.

ENTPs are less interested in developing plans of actions or making decisions than they are in generating possibilities and ideas. Following through on the implementation of an idea is usually a chore to the ENTP. For some ENTPs, this results in the habit of never finishing what they start. The ENTP who has not developed their Thinking process will have problems with jumping enthusiastically from idea to idea, without following through on their plans. The ENTP needs to take care to think through their ideas fully in order to take advantage of them.

The ENTP's auxiliary process of Introverted Thinking drives their decision making process. Although the ENTP is more interested in absorbing information than in making decisions, they are quite rational and logical in reaching conclusions. When they apply Thinking to their Intuitive perceptions, the outcome can be very powerful indeed. A well-developed ENTP is extremely visionary, inventive, and enterprising.

ENTPs are fluent conversationalists, mentally quick, and enjoy verbal sparring with others. They love to debate issues, and may even switch sides sometimes just for the love of the debate. When they express their underlying principles, however, they may feel awkward and speak abruptly and intensely.

The ENTP personality type is sometimes referred to the "Lawyer" type. The ENTP "lawyer" quickly and accurately understands a situation, and objectively and logically acts upon the situation. Their Thinking side makes their actions and decisions based on an objective list of rules or laws. If the ENTP was defending someone who had actually committed a crime, they are likely to take advantage of quirks in the law that will get their client off the hook. If they were to actually win the case, they would see their actions as completely fair and proper to the situation, because their actions were lawful. The guilt or innocence of their client would not be as relevant. If this type of reasoning goes uncompletely unchecked by the ENTP, it could result in a character that is perceived by others as unethical or even dishonest. The ENTP, who does not naturally consider the more personal or human element in decision making, should take care to notice the subjective, personal side of situations. This is a potential problem are for ENTPs. Although their logical abilities lend strength and purpose to the ENTP, they may also isolate them from their feelings and from other people.

The least developed area for the ENTP is the Sensing-Feeling arena. If the Sensing areas are neglected, the ENTP may tend to not take care of details in their life. If the Feeling part of themself is neglected, the ENTP may not value other people's input enough, or may become overly harsh and aggressive.

Under stress, the ENTP may lose their ability to generate possibilities, and become obsessed with minor details. These details may seem to be extremely important to the ENTP, but in reality are usually not important to the big picture.

In general, ENTPs are upbeat visionaries. They highly value knowledge, and spend much of their lives seeking a higher understanding. They live in the world of possibilities, and become excited about concepts, challenges and difficulties. When presented with a problem, they're good at improvising and quickly come up with a creative solution. Creative, clever, curious, and theoretical, ENTPs have a broad range of possibilities in their lives.

What does Success mean to an ENTP?

ENTP personalities are motivated by possibilities. They love the outside chances; the new or unusual combinations lurking within the ordinary everyday world of things and ideas. For them, something is always on the up, something is always tantalizing their desire to re-orchestrate life into new patterns and shapes; new ways of fulfilling what can be as strong as a never ending desire to beat the odds and win at every game in town, or as mild as a quirky personal need for constant variety and change. With their thinking tied to the myriad possibilities they see in the world, they act swiftly and decisively upon those angles, choices and combinations scarcely noticed by other types, but through which they can build whole new frameworks or completely redefine an existing external situation in such a way that it appears new, revitalized and once again full of promise. Sameness, stasis, conservatism - even daily routine - can be loathsome to fervent ENTPs, whose drive is always to be into something new, different and full of fresh possibilities, and who, given the opportunity, will always be the first to show others a new path to success in a venture, or to find a way of doing something that no-one has done before.

ENTP people measure their success by their "aha" moments, by the sense of satisfaction which comes as they spread their newly written maps before them and contemplate the new adventure, design, investigation or conquest which has now become their road ahead. What has gone before, previous achievements, ways of living - even people met along the way - are often now forgotten or considered passe, mere steps along a path which has now brought a new frontier to be exploited for its gifts. Whether it is the search for knowledge, money, power, fame or pleasure, the ENTP will be found at the frontline, gazing into the distance and discovering new avenues toward, bigger, better or more satisfying outcomes.

ENTPs are the great problem solvers, discoverers and re-inventors of the world. Their insights into the world around them, their ability to see new ways of putting things together and making them work can bring them great success in virtually any industry or human pursuit that interests them. For this reason the ENTP is happiest in situations where they can use their intuitive powers freely and have the space in which to think upon the aspects and angles which come to them. Without fulfilling work and the freedom to use their mind most productively, ENTPs can quickly tire of a limiting situation. For this reason an open road toward success is an extremely important factor in the ENTPs life. Some, given a little opportunity, will clear one for themselves, but of all the types, it is the ENTP who has most need to be aware of the life and career situations they might commit to without sufficient thought for the future.

Allowing Your ENTP Strengths to Flourish

As an ENTP, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren't natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.

Potential Problem Areas

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.

Explanation of Problems

Nearly all of the problematic characteristics described above can be attributed in various degrees to the common ENTP problem of being so fascinated with their Extroverted Intuitions that they fail to develop a careful thinking process sufficient to balance it. Leaps of perception, new ideas and strange but fascinating juxtapositions are wonderful for the potential freshness and possible success they might bring. But if not carefully appraised and chosen wisely they can also take us far from the right path in life, take us from our friends, spoil our relationships and even bring personal or financial disaster. Without a well developed thinking function, the ENTP is always in danger of leaping over social, financial and personal constraints for the sake of following a new vision. This might be as simple as arousing the wrath of ones partner by suddenly deciding to by an expensive gadget or change something around the house without being concerned for their input or feelings, or as complex as allowing an ill considered entrepreneurial idea lead them into financial and social disaster, simply because the one sided vision of Extroverted Intuition does not recognize or count the amount of small but important details which need to be right before such ideas can be realized.

Without a solid thinking function, the ENTP can easily discount or fail to notice the essential ethics of social and interpersonal relationship, often considering themselves "above" or untouched by such limiting values and often discounting the possibility that their actions might be or hurtful or seen as unethical by others. It is not that the one sided ENTP is deliberately hurtful, but simply ignorant of the effects which can flow from their often compulsive need for change or need to show how clever or individual they are. In the ENTP, the lack of a well developed Feeling Function means that they must learn to understand feeling in both themselves and others and come to terms with its affects. This understanding can only come from thinking carefully about the ways feeling affects not only themselves, but others, and the importance others place on this function. The ENTP has a feeling function more or less global in character and one which does not judge fine differences. This inability to discriminate feelings can allow the ENTP to say and do much that leaves others in the cold, so an effort to think about the feeling process can be essential. Without the understanding this brings, the ENTP can separate themselves from the ground of their life, from the constancy of their friends and family and, without even realizing it, they can easily find themselves in untenable positions where, without support, they wonder why they are suddenly alone and lost.

Another significant problem arises where the ENTP has grown within or is locked by circumstances to an environment which limits their freedom or their ability to utilize their specific abilities. This forces the ENTP to narrow down their intuitive process to the point where it retains at least some freedom to operate within their life. Under such conditions however, the intuition is free only to range over a small and limited field of vision, a field which usually consists only of the very things the ENTP is normally unconcerned about: the small details of life and its familiar objects. Without the ability to take stock and apply careful thought to the ways they might expand their horizons, the ENTP in such situations can become morose, niggardly and obsessed with the most minor or intangible details - to the point where such minutiae fill their life and each day becomes a frustrating process of eliminating again and again the little problems which ever seem to stand in the way of the "big picture" - a picture which, as those around them know only too well, will never be realized.

Solutions

To grow as an individual, the ENTP needs to focus on carefully analyzing the information they receive via their Extraverted Intuition. They need to allow themselves sufficient time and space to relax with the ideas and possibilities they can see. It is all too easy for the ENTP to assume that what they see is what they need. Careful thinking can allow the ENTP to "suss out" the best possible ways to proceed out of all the possibilities that come to them. At the same time, even if they are not able to share them, ENTPs need at least to understand the joys and satisfactions that others derive within those situations the ENTP would not normally choose in life. Awareness of the ways and needs of others can be the key to understanding the most life affirming way ahead for the ENTP, for there is always a danger that they might choose paths without regard to the feelings and needs of others close to them. The ENTP learns from analyzing his experience, so the best way for the ENTP to grow as a person is to develop his thinking capacity. Thus, that while the desire to run out and do something "new" is an ENTP pattern of need, this need must be integrated into a whole way of life in which the rest of our human needs and those of others who rely upon our presence are also satisfied. Your task, as a person interested in personal growth, is to understand yourself in a truly objective fashion, and how you can best give to the world, rather than just exploit the possibilities it bring to you.

The ENTP should always pay close attention to why they are acting upon new information. Are they acting out of a carefully considered motive to realize something truly worthwhile for themselves and others? Are they really seeking to improve life, or concerned with just making the next play, proving the point, showing others the moves or climbing the mountain just because it is there to climb, regardless of the consequences?

Living Happily in our World as an ENTP

The problems ENTPs might have fitting into the world are not usually directly related to friends or relationships. Rather, the ENTP has trouble maintaining a stable and consistent lifestyle. While this can affect love relationships, the ENTP usually has such an endearing and capable "way" about them that others tend to follow their lead, even in the most trying of situations. The problems the ENTP generates in life are those associated with their constant need for individuality, excellence and new experiences which test their talents. While this can place great demand upon relationships, tensions are usually only apparent where the ENTP has made a love match with a person whose security needs are greater than their ability to allow their ENTP partner the freedom they need. The self aware ENTP must therefore not only be careful in considering their career choices, but also in choosing a life situation with a partner. Of all the types, the ENTP is most uncomfortable with compromise and ought not to place themselves in situations which demand it. Most importantly the ENTP must become aware, through careful analysis of experience, just what kind of changes for the good or bad have been the direct result of their need for constant refreshment of life. Only through this awareness will the ENTP be able to focus on those perceptions which promise a better and more fruitful life.

Most ENTPs will experience career/life frustration and some relationship difficulties through their lives. The ENTP with well-developed Introverted Thinking will find these times easier to deal with. Accordingly, we offer some general suggestions for dealing with these difficulties, as well as some advice that will help the ENTP develop their Introverted Thinking.

Specific suggestions:

• Take time to really listen to the thoughts of others and try to see how they understand the world. Think about the ways in which your view of the world and your needs can mesh with theirs.
• Don't expect others to simply follow you or expect that they should see what you can see as a worthy goal. A good exercise is to imagine yourself as a blind or severely disabled person. Try to get the feel of what it would be like to have to organize your life from such a different perspective. Would your goals still be valid? Would they need re-thinking? Consider the possibility that while your way of thinking leads you to see other types as having limited vision or ability, the truth is that they are no more limited than yourself, but simply have a differing focus in life and differing needs.
• Realize and accept that for you a satisfying relationship will require you to attend to the small details of life and show an awareness of your partner's feelings. You might find this difficult, but it will pay the biggest dividends in return for your effort.
• Expanding your appreciation of the differences between people will expand your understanding of human expectations. Try to figure out the personality type of people that you know and encounter in your life.
• Take care to listen to what people express within different social and work situations. Notice the different ways they go about their dealings with others or solving their problems. Do not try to compare or judge their ways against your own, simply try to recognize the many ways it is possible to be at peace in the world.
• When having a conversation with a friend or relative, spend at least half of the time talking about them. Concentrate on really understanding where the person is coming from with their concerns. Ask questions.
• Think of the people who are closest to you. Remember that they have their own passions, satisfactions and needs. Try to visualize what that person is doing, and narrow down to how they are feeling at this moment; to one thing they might be thinking about. Don't pass judgment, just consider and reflect on why they might think or feel in just such a way.

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENTP Success

1.     Feed Your Strengths! Realize your gift of seeing past the obvious brings you a great capacity to reward yourself and others through your cleverness. Make sure you engage in activities and which can expose this potential at its most valuable level.

2.     Face Your Weaknesses! We all have weaknesses. Recognizing your weaknesses for what they are (without beating yourself up) will give you the power to change your life for the better.

3.     Talk Through Your Perceptions. Discussing what you see with others will them understand where you are coming from, and offer you the chance to discover the ways in which their input can balance your ideas.

4.     Relax and Enjoy the View. Take the time to consider what you have, the gifts life has already brought to you. Try and discover the value and importance of those constant day to day things which support and nourish you.

5.     Be Aware of Others Understand that everyone has their own lives and their own perspectives. Everyone has something to offer. Try to identify people's personality type.

6.     Recognize Norms and Structures Are Necessary. Remember that without the support and constancy of others, no-one can follow their dreams. The path you walk was laid by others, each of its stepping stones created to fulfill a different part of the human need for constancy and security. Without this support structure, you cannot go far.

7.     Get Out of Your Comfort Zone Understand that the only way to grow is to get outside of your comfort zone. If you're feeling uncomfortable in situation because it seems to be going nowhere, that's good! That's an opportunity for growth.

8.     Identify and Express Your Feelings You may have a hard time understanding your feelings. It's important that you try to figure this out. Don't let people down. If you determine that you value a person, tell them so every time you think of it. This is the best way to make them feel secure in your affections, and so to promote a long-lasting relationship.

9.     Be Accountable for Yourself Remember that no one has more control over your life than you have. Don't be a victim.

10. Assume the Best, But Be Wary. Your positive attitude nearly always creates positive situations. Just remember: to make them lasting and worthwhile you must build them on solid, carefully planned foundations.